Wedding Stuff

[bertine]

Summary: We have a venue and a date - 12/26/2011


Today we toured a venue, liked it and so my dad put money down on it. Part of me feels really weird having my parents pay for part of my wedding but he wants to. They are paying for the food and the reception hall, which if you have ever gotten married you know is a big chunk of the cost. Still, he gave me the number he is willing to pay so I know what I have to work with.

I am hoping to keep the guest around 200. Actually, the hall would be packed with too many more than that so I don't think that will be too hard to do. I decided today that I am not going to have "plus ones" unless I know someone is dating someone pretty seriously. (sorry guys). I am also am pushing back on my parents and telling them that I am not inviting some people just because I should. I am okay with some of the people they want to invite that I don't know very well (my dad's aunts) but my aunt's husband's children from his first marriage that I have met twice and haven't seen in over five years? No.

Also, if you aren't invited to my wedding it isn't a slight, rather it is because I have such a huge family. This is going to be the hard for me.

Our date is weird, it is the day after Christmas. I like it. I sort of like the idea of getting married on a Monday and being weird. We picked it because we wanted to get married over winter break and the options were Christmas weekend or over New Year's weekend. New Year's Weekend was already booked and we didn't want to get married on Christmas Eve or Day. So Monday it is.

Comments

[phoenixredux.livejournal.com]

Given that it's so far out and on a holiday, it might be a good idea to split your guest list into "A" and "B". Then if a bunch of people on the A list say they can't make it, send out invites to the B list until you fill your quota. Like, if all your friends from LJ can't make it, you can start inviting your dad's aunt's cousin's college roommate's kids' babysitter's boyfriend, or whatever.

[bertine.livejournal.com]

I am doing "A", "B", and "C" lists but I think you are right, that is the best way to do it.

My brother told me that he invited about 220 and ended up with only 130 people at his wedding. That makes me pretty hopeful. Ha!

[phoenixredux.livejournal.com]

I don't have the numbers in front of me from our wedding, but that sounds about right. Send out ~250 in the first batch, and see what happens. Not everyone is going to make it, especially so close to Xmas.