Diet

[bertine]

I am so sick of people commenting on my diet. Guess what? I am going to eat candy once this baby pops out because I love candy. I am going to have French Fries because they are good. I am also going to eat rice and cous-cous again because they are excellent side dishes.

I seriously hate the judgement that I get. Guess what? Any fucking woman can get gestational diabetes, I wasn't overweight and I am not in terrible shape. So I don't have to worry about my weight after the baby is born. If I lose the 25 pounds I am told
Is normal to lose, I'll be "skinny" and none of my clothes will fit because I have lost weight during this.

I think making a Facebook post saying I want beer, wine, fruit, French fries and peanut butter cups when the baby is born isn't a terrible thing.

I might be overly emotional. Pregnancy makes me crabby, as you guys have heard but I HATE the judgment that I feel comes from others when I write about this stuff.

Comments

[pen-grunt.livejournal.com]

No, no. You're not overly emotional. That fb thread became really ridiculous really quickly. My first thought was: OMG, when/if I get pregnant I might try not telling anyone at all, and then they can all be amazed at my ability to bring forth a child without all their advice! Miracle baby!

Seriously. Some of the comments made me mad -for- you. You've had a little parasite making outrageous demands and dictating restrictions for nine months...you're not supposed to look forward to French fries and wine? Ridiculous.

[bertine.livejournal.com]

I was so mad when I started to read the comments. WTF? I am sick of thinking about what I eat all the time.

I defriended the person that cause me the most issues. I don't think she has had one positive comment in the entire time I have been pregnant. It was getting to me. I just can't handle people like that.

The worst part about this whole thing is that I don't have any appetite anymore and when I do eat I have started being sick again. So it is even more frustrating that I am struggling with eating in general and then I am judged because I am looking forward to food.

Also, thank you for your comment. <3

[phaedie.livejournal.com]

I posted a meme once that said ' eat what you want and if anyone else complains eat them!' I firmly beleive this. Food is delicious, you're a grown up and shouldn't be judged. 

[sharya.livejournal.com]

There were some pretty judgey comments there. 

On a completely different note, I ate tons of spice during pregnancy and breastfeeding and my kids are great eaters today and love a variety of foods! No idea if it's related, but I like to think it is.

My 4 year old asked for smoked cracked pepper gouda for a snack.  Both kids love roasted garlic hummus.  None of them like process cheese, they like real cheese.  I love that most of the time, even when they just started eating solids, I could feed them a well cut up version of the same food we ate.

I'm so excited for your adventure which is about to begin!

[pallid-regina.livejournal.com]

Seriously?! People are jerks. If someone who has been through ANYTHING that prevents them from eating the fun stuff (and we all have fun stuff we love to eat) says they don't plan to scarf some of said fun stuff the minute they are allowed, they are just LYING.

I'm rooting for you, I will make you some candy-coated French fries dipped in wine! You made a LIFE, girl, you have EARNED a little celebration!

[annablume.livejournal.com]

What you're experiencing, in my opinion, is a glimpse into being a fat person in our culture. Not because you are fat, but because diabetes (in any form, stupidly) is considered a "fat person" disease. Clearly, anyone who has diabetes is a fat fuck who brought it on themselves by being completely idiotic and out of control.

So, welcome! It's a really unpleasant place to be. The good news is that you get to go back to the thin privilege side in three weeks. The bad news is that tons of other fat people will still be subject to this type of behavior, and it's just as unpleasant.

P.S. Any anger expressed in this comment is aimed toward the idiots that say that type of thing - to you or anyone - and not at your desire to eat french fries or eat wine.

[annablume.livejournal.com]

Or even drink wine. Although, if they made a wine solid I would probably try it.

[bertine.livejournal.com]

BTW, I miss wine so much.

And martinis.

[patrickwonders.livejournal.com]

I don't know how it relates to the GD diet at all, but there's absolutely no evidence that anything less than binge-drinking hurts a fetus (especially after the neural tubes are formed in the first trimester).

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424127887323514404578652091268307904.html?mod=e2tw

especially this graph: http://si.wsj.net/public/resources/images/RV-AL293_EXPECT_G_20130809150604.jpg

[bertine.livejournal.com]

It has a ton of sugar. At this point I would be drinking beer and wine but my sugar levels would be so bad. I think I would skip the martinis just because it is dehydrating to me.

My plan before GD was to start having a beer or a glass of wine when I hit the third trimester. Stupid sugar levels. I can tell when they are high, I get really jittery.

[bertine.livejournal.com]

I think you are right. The person that annoyed me the most is someone I have met in person a couple times and isn't close to me at all (online or in person). She is also someone that I weighs about the same as me but struggles to maintain that weight where I rarely worry about what I eat.

I hate how our culture treats weight. I am all for people trying to lose weight if that is what they want but having been raised by an anorexic mother I have see the other side of side of this. I would rather have been happy at whatever weight they are at then making themselves sick trying to hit some number of a scale.

Anyways, this has been hard for me not just because the diet is so limiting but because I am unused to tracking food so much. Plus there is a lot of judging going on. Not just from her but from others. At least my brother has stopped making comments because I was close to losing it with him.

Also, <3, it doesn't matter what I think but you look amazing every time I see you.

[annablume.livejournal.com]

Thank ya, dear! Right back atcha!

[jonthedull.livejournal.com]

I didn't see the FB thread you are referring to, nor do I know what its like to have a child. That said. I have read or heard other hugely judgmental things said to or about moms or mom's to be about everything they eat or do. For crying out loud, I don't get it. For most of human history pregnant women ate food that was partly spoiled or moldy, worked hard hours doing manual labor in awful conditions, and if the were lucky drank beer to avoid the diseased water supply. Even in those conditions with no doctors babies survived, I *think* depending on the time and place of course more babies survived than died. Now we have people accusing perfectly healthy caring women of abusing their unborn babies if they even think about having a hotdog or walk past someone smoking or drinking alcohol. Why can't people mind their own bodies and own babies?

[seattleforge.livejournal.com]

Women are shitty to each other. Just wait until they start on you about staying home or not staying home. Your daycare, etc.. It's an unending cycle of judgement.

[scorpi084.livejournal.com]

I am tired of people who think it's their place to talk about another person's body. I have a coworker right now who is super sweet in every other way, but she is trying to lose weight, and has decided that this is an interest we share, so she "jokes" with me about what I have for lunch/dinner. I've had about enough, and I'm not even pregnant to add to my rage.

[eatsoylentgreen.livejournal.com]

sorry!

[bertine.livejournal.com]

You aren't really the one, I am pretty sure you were just teasing. It is the monica chick that gets to me. I defriended her because I couldn't deal with it anymore.