Needy/Extroverted/Introverted/Whatever

[bertine]

I am normally an introvert. I don't usually need people around me a lot of the time. However, lately I have been feeling what I think is extroversion but feels like neediness. I want attention, I want people around me and I want to talk and talk but I am so scared of being seen as needy. Is it needy to want to go out? To no longer just want to sit at home playing with my cats and reading books?

Also, I have been posting a lot lately. That also feels needy but I think it might just be that I have a lot to say lately because my head is so full of thoughts right now. I love that I can feel myself becoming more the way I want to be but it is stirring up a lot of things inside me too.

Comments

[polyranger.livejournal.com]

It isn't needy until you start whining about it when people can not get together with you.

[bertine.livejournal.com]

Oh, I didn't even think about that. Mostly I need to get up the guts to ask people if they want to go to brunch with me.

[sharya.livejournal.com]

Agreed.

[paaaaants.livejournal.com]

I think it's great! Of course, I'm a closet introvert, but an outward EXTROVERT! I love people. It's almost like I'm afraid to be alone...but don't tell anyone. :P

[bertine.livejournal.com]

I am a closet extrovert. :P

[damncutekitty.livejournal.com]

I don't think it's needy to want to go out a lot. Socializing keeps me sane. If I stay home alone too much I start feeling... emo.

[bertine.livejournal.com]

:(

Well... staying home usually makes me feel sane but I really am feeling the need to do something to upset my balance right now. I think that is what is going on, I am changing (which I want) and it sometimes makes me a little "crazy".

[lisianthia.livejournal.com]

Shedding old skin is not supposed to be a "comfortable" process.

I get what you are saying here. When I think I'm feeling needy, it's sometimes more that I'm feeling vulnerable and that makes me uncomfortable so I label the emotion "needy." I don't know if that makes sense now that it's escaped from my head.

[bertine.livejournal.com]

That make sense. For me, since I was so reclusive for years, any sort of want to be around people seems needy. I am trying to work on changing that.

[pork_chop]

i get these feelings during summer, antsy and anxious and "who-can-i-call?". during minnesota winter, i'm a-okay with staying at home with the cats, they're warm.

[bertine.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I usually get this sort of feeling in the summer and I usually solve it by riding my bike a lot. By this point of the year I just want to lay on my couch and watch tv and work alot. It is odd.

[sharya.livejournal.com]

I would subsitute the word "neediness" for the word "social".

"I'm feeling 'social' tonight. Let's go out."

"I'm feeling 'social' right now; care for a cup of coffee?"

[bertine.livejournal.com]

THANK YOU.

That will really help in my internal thoughts.

[sharya.livejournal.com]

I thought that might help :)
For some reason you've associated the idea of being social with the idea of being needy, and they aren't necessarily synonymous.

[bertine.livejournal.com]

I have associated the two and I am so glad you were able to clarify it for me because now I have someway to rephrase thoughts. I am good at changing the way I think when I have something to replace it with.

[seattleforge.livejournal.com]

wokka wokka wokka! Stop thinking so much and just go with it.

[bertine.livejournal.com]

I am trying but it is hard for me not to over think.

[pallid-regina.livejournal.com]

It's OK to feel a little needy, isn't that what LJ is for? *hugs*

[bertine.livejournal.com]

Yeah. That is what I use LJ for. I just am so gosh-darn self reliant most of the time that I forget that it is ok to want people around.